Soulful Communication
Communication has long been seen as the key to a healthy marriage. Modern experts call this wisdom into question, suggesting that it is not communication, but connection that is the key to lasting marital happiness.
Communication has long been seen as the key to a healthy marriage. Modern experts call this wisdom into question, suggesting that it is not communication, but connection that is the key to lasting marital happiness.
In a time when the view of marriage has shifted from a lifelong vow with responsibilities and duties to a feelings-based contract, marriage can really seem devoid of worth. Yet this viewpoint is incorrect and even dangerous.
Thinking of our marriage as ‘sleeping with a different person every night’ is a fun but also powerful reminder that we need to both expect and look for change in each other, every day.
Today, St Valentine's name evokes thoughts of flowers and romantic dinners. Yet St Valentine’s true legacy speaks to something far more profound: the sacrificial nature of authentic love.
Just think: when listening to music together, your neurons work in unison with the neurons of another person, and for reasons that we do not yet fully understand, this process releases the hormone of happiness and love — oxytocin.
In 2019, Paak released "Make It Better", featuring Smokey Robinson — a sweet, phat track that contains much wisdom for us married men.
Renewing our vows can be done as frequently as we choose; from the mundane routines to settings in the extreme. When we start to think this way, there must be thousands of opportunities for couples to renew their vows.
In any relationship, especially in marriage, its strength and quality can be measured by the depth and sincerity of the intimacy we share. For any couple to have sustained and vibrant intimacy, one that increases in depth and meaning, proactive investment is required.
One way that couples can actively build connection and re-establish the excitement of sexual anticipation is through the ‘Connect Kiss’. This simple practice takes a mere 20 seconds a day: ten in the morning and ten in the evening.
One of the most important resolutions we can make is to give our marriages and relationships higher priority. The most vital and satisfying marriages are intentional. They don’t leave their relationship to chance, but actively foster habits which deepen their intimacy.