Mums

Girl’s Passage — Father’s Duty

By Warwick Marsh

Brian Molitor, head of the Malachi Global Foundation, asked me to write a recommendation for his new book, Girl’s Passage, Father’s Duty, which is co-written with his wife, Kathy. Brian is not the sort of guy you can argue with. He is 6’4″, built like a Sherman tank, and in his younger days as a professional footballer, he would have been a formidable opponent. I would have definitely come off second-best in an argument.

Many of you met Brian Molitor when he toured Australia on the Turning Hearts Tour. He was very well-received because of his self-deprecating humour and love of hunting and fishing. Another reason I wasn’t going to argue with him.

Jokes aside, Brian and Kathy’s new book is brilliant and complements his first book, Boy’s Passage, Man’s Journey, the title which Brian used for his seminars in Australia. My review is below.

Girl’s Passage, Father’s Duty is a groundbreaking book that will set the record straight about the critical need for a father in a young girl’s life. In 2002 when we started the Fatherhood Foundation/Dads4Kids, I thought that fathers were more important for boys. After much study and research over the last five years, I have realised that my ideas were wrong. The input that a father has on his daughter’s life is absolutely critical for her psychosexual development and her success as a woman later in life.

Every young women who is coming of age, longs to hear these words from her father’s lips, “Honey, you are beautiful, you are precious and I love you just the way you are!” Nothing can be a substitute for a warm, loving, father-daughter relationship.

Brian and Kathy Molitor give the keys that all parents need in order to build such a relationship — a warm, loving relationship that every daughter deserves and needs. Their book is both spiritual and practical as they share their personal journey and real-life insights, along with powerful principles that have stood the test of time.

Girl’s Passage, Father’s Duty should be required reading for every mum and dad on the planet.

When I read Brian’s first book about rites of passage and life-long mentoring for boys, all my sons had come of age, but my wife and I were challenged to put his words into practice and design a rite-of-passage / coming-of-age celebration for our youngest daughter. It is now several months since we held this ceremony and I believe it has been a milestone for our daughter in her journey into womanhood.

In Special Feature, you will find the full story written by my wife, to give you insight and inspiration. I believe that having such a celebration / ceremony has given my daughter the courage to embrace the responsibility and joys of being a young woman. The rite-of-passage celebration has made a difference in her life, and perhaps it is best articulated by this beautiful handmade Christmas card I received last year with these touching and moving words.

Dearest Dad

Thanks for everything, you are a great Dad and I love you. Your name means ‘elaborate’, which is true for you. You are elaborate in many things, the mess on your desk for one, your thinking, your actions. You think outside the box and that’s what I like about you. You try in everything you do, and most of the time you succeed. You are the greatest Dad in the world and I know this because, I don’t want to have any other. I love you Dad. Have a Merry Christmas.

Your daughter
Melodie Marsh

Every young daughter needs to hear those words, “Honey you are beautiful, you are precious and I love you just the way you are.” Conversely, every father needs to know that he is the greatest Dad in the world, even if he does have a messy desk.

Consider planning a rite of passage / celebration for your children. Boy’s Passage, Man’s Journey © 2004 Emerald Books by Brian Molitor is a great book to read on the subject.

Whatever you do, make sure you speak the words your children need to hear from you,

You are special and I love you!