Byron and Francine Pirola

About Byron and Francine Pirola

Married for 25 years, with 5 children, Byron & Francine Pirola are the founders and co-authors of the SmartLoving Series – marriage enrichment and marriage preparation courses designed to help build successful and resilient marriages. International speakers and authors of numerous articles on marriage, more than 3000 couples have attended their programs, workshops and conferences in Australia, New Zealand and Great Britain Byron & Francine are Executive Directors of the Marriage Resource Centre from which they run SmartLoving programs and produce digital resources. Francine graduated from Fordham University with a Masters in Religion and Religious Education. Byron is a founding partner of the strategic consulting firm, Port Jackson Partners Limited, and a Director of both listed and unlisted companies. He holds a PhD from the Commonwealth Centre for Gene Technology, Adelaide University.
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Romance and Mystery

One of the things that makes a new romance so exciting and attractive is the element of uncertainty: Is this person really interested in me? Will this person really be the one I’ve longed for? We can all relate to the thrill of the start-up relationship where the other is essentially still a stranger and quite mysterious to us. Where is this all going to lead? The suspense is both thrilling ...

By |2022-11-24T09:31:30+10:00November 30th, 2022|FAITH, LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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Making Marriage Last is All in the Intention

No matter how easy it may seem to fall in love, staying in love requires attention and effort. We all start out in marriage bright in hope and full of brimming love. Yet rarely do those wonderful, euphoric experiences of early love persist unabated; for many of us, disillusionment creeps its way into our consciousness as our natural selfishness and thoughtlessness crowd out our earlier bliss-generated generosity. With crushing realisation, we ...

By |2022-11-22T10:55:20+10:00November 23rd, 2022|FAITH, LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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Restoring Hope in Life-Long Marriage

There’s a curious thing that happens when a divorce touches a community. Where once parents, friends and siblings believed in the power of love and the permanency of marriage, confidence gives way to cynicism and uncertainty. Instead of believing that children do best when living in the same home with both their parents, we find ourselves saying: “The most important thing is that they know they are loved by both their ...

By |2022-11-14T18:16:41+10:00November 16th, 2022|FAITH, LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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When History Repeats, Choose Freedom

We remember sitting with a young couple who were locked in combat. She was prone to reactive outbursts and he was mystified as to what he was doing to trigger it. As we probed her about her family of origin, the penny dropped: she was repeating a relationship pattern that she had established with her mother. With this new insight, the couple was able to identify her conflict preconditions which equipped ...

By |2022-11-09T19:17:25+10:00November 10th, 2022|FAMILIES, GRAND DADS, LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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Too Hasty to Judge

In the age of instant news, judgment falls hastily. In marriage also, we are often quick to judge each other. Like most couples, over thirty-plus years of marriage, we’ve had quite a few misunderstandings. Sadly, many of these escalated to painful arguments where hurtful things were said, and our unity was damaged. The reason? We were too quick to judge. In almost every instance, one or both of us made a ...

By |2022-10-31T13:32:54+10:00November 2nd, 2022|FAITH, LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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TIME – The Currency of Relationships

There’s an old adage in the world of parenting advice: Kids spell LOVE as T.I.M.E. Kids don’t need things nearly much as they need a parent’s attention and availability. It’s a classic mistake that we make all too often; we give them stuff we’ve bought instead of the thing they most need from us -- our interest and investment in them. Or we do things for them instead of with them ...

By |2022-10-27T19:45:59+10:00October 28th, 2022|Children, FAMILIES, LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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Experience is Not Always the Best Teacher

Lots of people think that dating (and being sexually intimate) with a number of different people before marriage is an essential part of forming a successful union. But is this kind of  ‘experience’ the best way to prepare for marriage? A lot of people think that having a few failed relationships is helpful in preparing them for marriage. Some even go so far as seeing the first marriage itself as a ...

By |2022-10-21T18:51:58+10:00October 21st, 2022|LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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How Can I Make Your Day Better?

I read a blog post recently from a husband who brought his marriage back from the brink with this one simple, daily habit. Each morning he asked his wife: how can I make your day better? The wife was suspicious at first and deliberately gave him tedious and demanding tasks, like cleaning out the garage, a task that took many hours to complete and which required him to cancel an engagement. ...

By |2022-10-14T14:56:50+10:00October 14th, 2022|LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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The Autopilot Marriage

Crammed schedules, kids to care for, a demanding boss, the ever-present television. No wonder our attentiveness to our couple relationship erodes over time, leaving us with less connection, less spark, and less intimacy. Without an active, intentional mindset, most contemporary marriages end up on ‘autopilot’. During courtship, our relationship is central in our awareness and the rest of our lives are in the background. We sink huge amounts of time and ...

By |2022-10-07T20:02:55+10:00October 7th, 2022|LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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The Power of Ritual

Routines can be very useful in keeping our lives purposeful and organised. Rituals are like routines with one important difference -- they have positive emotional meaning. Rituals connect us with others by providing a focus or activity that enables us to interact together in an enjoyable and meaningful way. Almost anything can become a ritual when we make the relationship the focus. For example, some couples check in with each other ...

By |2022-09-30T16:34:54+10:00September 30th, 2022|LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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