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Origin Families and Their Impact
Our family of origin makes leaving and cleaving complicated! When we marry, we each bring an inherited mental picture of what a spouse ‘should’ be. That makes things interesting...
Positive Thinking
When we capitalise on the positive events and good ideas, we lift each other and our marriage up. This enhances our relationship and builds marriage resiliency.
Compound Wounds: What They Are and How To Heal Them
Emotional wounds often persist unnoticed beneath the surface. When we experience a similar incident, the old wound can be activated along with the new one, compounding our pain. But there is hope.
A Habit of Thanks
Positive thinking works. It really does. One of the most effective ways to deepen our bonding is to verbalise our gratitude to each other.
Going the Distance is Easier Together
We’ve all heard marriage is a long-distance journey, but what happens when it feels like a marathon with no finish line?
War and Peace on the Home Front
Is your marriage more of a battlefield than the safe, peaceful harbour it is intended to be? Here are three top tips to stop that negative spiral of action and reaction.
Catch These 5 Little Foxes to Improve Your Relationships Instantly
Let’s go “fox hunting.” Catch these “little foxes” of strife, jealousy, anger, ambition, and division and watch your relationships instantly improve.
Soulful Communication
Communication has long been seen as the key to a healthy marriage. Modern experts call this wisdom into question, suggesting that it is not communication, but connection that is the key to lasting marital happiness.
Here Are the Five Words That Will Heal Any Marriage
The relationship will never work if both people are selfish and want to be served. When both people are selfless and serving, the relationship HAS TO WORK. Here are five areas that will bring new life to any and every marriage.
Romanticism is Killing Marriage. Is It Time to Rethink Some Things?
Is our current model of marriage the right one? Is it here to stay? Or will historians one day look back and wonder: What were those neurotic, romantic fools thinking?
Editing Ourselves
Decades of messy conversations have taught us that timing matters. Editing ourselves – and choosing the right moment – almost always leads to better listening, deeper understanding, and a stronger connection.
Is Marriage No Longer Worth It for Men?
In a time when the view of marriage has shifted from a lifelong vow with responsibilities and duties to a feelings-based contract, marriage can really seem devoid of worth. Yet this viewpoint is incorrect and even dangerous.
How to Help a Struggling Marriage
Research shows that before divorce, 72% of individuals reach out to family and friends. Here's how to respond effectively when a spouse or a couple seeks your help for a struggling marriage.
The Keys to a Happy Marriage
According to research from the Institute for Family Studies and the Wheatley Institute, there are four things which drastically increase the chance of a happy marriage, and as a result, greatly diminish the odds of divorce.
Sleeping with a Different Woman Every Night
Thinking of our marriage as ‘sleeping with a different person every night’ is a fun but also powerful reminder that we need to both expect and look for change in each other, every day.
Keeping Love Alive in the Present Moment
Our romantic memories are the fabric of our couple history. When we reconnect with these memories, we reinvigorate our love and emotional connection in the present and set a positive tone for our future together.
Learning to Love
As C.S. Lewis wrote, don’t lock up your heart in a "coffin of your selfishness". Instead, love those closest to you with openness and vulnerability. Familial love like this might just be the closest one can get to Heaven on earth.
Pursuing a Lasting Love
Today, St Valentine's name evokes thoughts of flowers and romantic dinners. Yet St Valentine’s true legacy speaks to something far more profound: the sacrificial nature of authentic love.
The Gift of #StareTime
Just as financial capital gives us resources to invest and grow, relationship capital gives us emotional resources to draw upon when life gets challenging. Every moment of genuine connection, every shared laugh, every quiet “stare” builds up this reserve.
Defending Our Hearts
Is defensiveness crippling your relationship? Do you feel regularly on edge, reactive and punchy? While the intention of our instinctual reaction is to protect ourselves from harm, three things happen in a chronically defended state.
Virtue in Action
We teach couples strategies and skills for navigating relationships more effectively. As important as these frameworks are, they are not the critical factor in avoiding divorce or building a successful marriage. Rather, the key appears to lie elsewhere, in the practice of virtues.
How to Cultivate a Marriage That Will Help Your Child Succeed
There are a few well-researched, but often overlooked aspects to ensuring solid development in a child’s life. The first crucial component is the positive involvement of a father in the life of the child. The second is related to the marriage relationship between the father and mother.
More Than “I’m Sorry”
Saying “sorry” is good, but it’s not usually enough to fully restore the relationship. Asking for forgiveness is entirely different. “Please forgive me” is a profoundly other-centred statement. It puts us in a position of vulnerability.
Get Married: A Book By Brad Wilcox
By Brad Wilcox Drawing on the latest in social science as well as ancient wisdom, University of Virginia sociologist Brad Wilcox is dedicated to understanding and strengthening our most important institutions: marriage and family. https://youtu.be/TjIXY8qW5gM What's the recipe for happiness? If you listen to liberal elites or red pill influencers, you'd say it's making money, living for yourself, and staying single ...
Going From Good To Better
Marital health is about more than minimising conflict. If we want to go from ‘good’ to ‘better’ we need to capitalise on the positives. Most marriage counselling and education focuses on conflict and incompatibility. It seeks to help couples find constructive ways of dealing with challenges in the relationship. It’s a ‘damage control’ approach that seeks to minimise the impact ...
