The words we say are of immense importance to our children, who look to us for wisdom and an example of how to think, speak and act. Let us listen carefully to their questions and answer thoughtfully, knowing that we are laying a foundation for the rest of their lives.

Is it possible that dad is never wrong? Just because dad said so, it must be true. Well, probably not, but sometimes in the eyes of a child, it often rings true.

Poor old mum, the pains of childbirth, the endless hours of rearing the family, knowing exactly where you last left your favourite cap, yet — when it comes to knowledge about important things — like fishing, dad gets the nod.

Fishing

Just the other week, my eldest son came into my office, holding a fishing magazine subscription form, asking for me to write out a cheque. The subscription was to a junior anglers club — $10 got you a cap, a tackle box, fishing rod Velcro wraps, and a membership card.

My son proceeded to question the value of such a subscription, and whether his hard-earned ten dollars would be better spent elsewhere — to my reply: “No way mate, the cap would be worth $10 alone — I reckon it’s a great deal.” Done!

Anyway, a couple of days later, my son was sitting down reading the beloved fishing magazine, when he comes across the junior anglers club subscription form again. Excited by his recent (proposed) membership, he shows mum.

The first question raised by mum, showing genuine concern for the pocket money, was, “Is it really worth ten dollars?” With not a second’s pause, the first thing that came out of my son’s mouth was “Yeah, Dad said just the cap alone was worth $10 — it’s a great deal.” Sounds very familiar, eh?

Weighty Words

Did my son need any other justification but dad’s sentiments of a good deal? Would it have been different if dad said that it was not worth it, and to save your money? You know, often our children will hang on every word we say, without giving thought or reason to our rationale/thinking — they just accept it as gospel.

To a parent, this is precious — to think what we have to say is considered by our children to be so very important and final. I feel this needs to be kept in mind. As we go about our business, answering questions from our kids, supplying solutions and ideals, we need to be aware of our words, and the impact those words have on our children.

If I had a tip for young fathers today, it would be this: listen to the questions your children have. Junior angler fishing club memberships may not be life-changing, phone-off-the-hook, family-meeting-type situations — but there will be times that call for more family-orientated discussion and decision-making. It is in these times that parents must be as one, providing sound reasoning and answers to those inquisitive, searching, and yes, sometimes life-changing situations.

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Photo by Pavel Danilyuk.

About the Author: Paul Sloan

Paul Sloan is an accountant by trade, but has been a miner and many other things besides. He is married with three children and like most of us, he is still learning to be a father. Paul is an active surfer who lives on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland. He is a family man who hasn't lost his sense of humour.

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  1. Kaylene Emery April 17, 2022 at 9:40 am - Reply

    Your awareness of the power of words , especially from father to child is mighty n must come via His grace because it is a rare understanding in our current world – regardless of what the left ( mostly kids in adult bodies )are saying. Thank you for sharing your hard won insight.

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