This is a must-do for every dad. If this isn’t at the top of your list, once you have done it, it soon will be. Keep reading to find out.

If you want to connect with your kids, I can think of no better way than to …

write them a letter.

I did this last weekend when I was at a dads’ training conference, and my kids received their letters yesterday.


Two of my youngest came running out to my office grinning from ear to ear. Mum had to read the letters for them, but no matter. They enjoyed it just the same. My 4-year-old still had her letter with her at the breakfast table this morning.

It doesn’t take much time, but oh, the impact it might have just could be immeasurable.


I heard a story on the weekend of a man who didn’t have a close relationship with his dad. They just didn’t get on when he was young and both were to blame. The relationship was always frosty.

Fortunately, they got to spend some time together as the dad was slipping towards eternity, and the son finally after half a lifetime got to hear the words — I love you, son.

The question for us, regardless of how our relationship is at the moment, is — when did you last tell them you love them?  It might actually be easier in a letter, and it might mean the world to them one day when they need it most.

Longing for Love

The son in the story had the job of sorting through his father’s belongings after his passing.  As he searched through his dad’s filing cabinet he longed to find a letter from his dad to him — one that his dad had written but never sent. He hoped beyond hope. He never found one.

I can’t bear the thought of that disappointment for my kids. I always want my kids to have a letter from me on hand so they can have my words and know they are loved and that they are special. Boys or girls, they both need to hear affirming words from dad.


Tell your boys you are proud of them and tell your girls you notice them.

The words don’t need to be eloquent. Speak from the heart. Say sorry if you need to, but no buts or things to work on. Just speak about their qualities, their character and how special they are to you.

Try it, and let us know what happens in the comments below. It will encourage other men to do likewise.

Get writing!


Originally published at Real Men 24/7. Photo by cottonbro from Pexels.

About the Author: Guy Mullon

Guy is a former corporate manager, then funds manager, financial services responsible manager and company director turned entrepreneur. These days Guy is a busy husband and father of 9 children, online author, speaker and coach. Guy is the founder and one of the main contributors to Real Men 24/7, through which he seeks to help men who are 'stuck' get moving again to a life with a plan and purpose.

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