What Was It All For?
May 6, 2024

Editor’s Note: Every now and then, a story lands on our desk that defies description for all the right reasons. “What Was It All For? – A Letter From a Quadrant Reader” is a very powerful and poignant story about true love and the fight for truth that transcends the generations. Better still, it is all for the greater good!
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by Joanna Hackett, Quadrant Online, 1 May 2024
My father returned from the war with ten quid in his pocket. He’d been flying Spitfires and Hurricanes over Europe and later in Burma. He was invalided out, worn out by what he’d seen and done. One dream had kept him going during the three years away from Australia — to marry his fiancée, settle down and become a farmer.
He arrived in Melbourne, with his faded RAAF uniform hanging off a lanky body scrawny from bouts of malaria and burnt near-black from the tropical sun. His aim was to buy a wedding ring, as the long-awaited event was planned for two days hence. My mother’s family was not about to allow time for any pre-marital hanky-panky!
Dad found a jeweller’s shop near Flinders Street station and went in to purchase a ring. The shop was run down and gloomy and the counters dusty. Buying jewellery had obviously not been a priority for Melburnians during the hard years of war. The elderly jeweller shuffled out from a back room.
“I need a wedding ring, please. Doesn’t have to be fancy; just something simple will do the trick.”
The old man looked at him thoughtfully. “You have been over there, to my side of the world?”
“Yeah, just got off the boat, and I’m getting married in a couple of days. She’s been waiting three years.”
“Well,” said the jeweller slowly, setting the dust motes dancing as he pulled out a tray of rings. “I am thinking, perhaps one of these?”
Dad’s heart sank when he saw the prices.
“I only have ten quid,” he said, embarrassed.
“Let me see, this one here should suit. It’s excellent quality, and wide enough to last a lifetime or more. That’s what you want, is it not? One day, your great-great-granddaughter will wear it.”
Dad shifted from one foot to another. “It’s just fine. In fact, it’s more than just fine. It’s a beautiful ring, but …”
“I’ll wrap it for you then.” The jeweller polished the ring carefully and found a small box.
“I can’t afford it,” said Dad loudly.
“You see my name up there, on the sign? Ezra Lieberman. You know what that means? Of course you do. So this ring is a gift, an offering of thanks, from someone who was too old to go and fight for his people. Now leave me, my friend, and get married and live happily ever after. Otherwise, what was it all for?”
And so Dad left, with the tiny box in his pocket. He married my mother as planned, brought up a large family and eventually owned the farm they so desired.
Eighty years later, as shrieking ghouls from earlier times rise up to stalk our streets, his great-granddaughter will wear this ring when she marries her beloved. And that is just as it should be. Otherwise, what was it all for?
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Republished with thanks to Quadrant. Click here to subscribe. Image courtesy of Tara Winstead.
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