Overview of Recent Family Violence Research Findings
Contrary to common beliefs, up to one in three victims of sexual assault and at least one in three victims of family violence and abuse are male.
Momentous Conference: Restoring the Presumption of Innocence
Our conference on Restoring the Presumption of Innocence was an outstanding success. Messages are pouring in from many of the 200-plus people who sat rapt as our powerful speakers revealed the shocking state of justice facing men in this country.
The Facts on Fatherlessness
Fatherlessness is a growing problem all over the Western world. We urgently need to address the twin problems of fatherlessness and family breakdown. Until we tackle these problems, our children and our societies will continue to suffer.
Defeating a Porn Addiction
Pornography is holding more men and women in bondage than ever before. Despite the gloom, there are victories. Luke’s story is one. Will you be the next to be free from porn addiction? There was a time when pornography seemed like it was a part of growing up and gaining liberty from stereotypical norms, or rules our parents and religion had imposed on us. But more than that, it seemed like ...
The Power of Apology
I could have titled this article The amazing things that happen when a father says “sorry”, but having the courage to say sorry and exercise forgiveness will work for anyone: dad, mum, male or female. Some years ago, at my daughter’s engagement party, I had the honour of giving a short speech. Recently I wrote about the fact that “in families, change is the only constant”. What I didn’t tell you ...
The High Cost of Putting a Razor to Masculinity
Gillette has jumped on the #metoo bandwagon, and in the process has derogated masculinity. I have a lot of sympathy for the #metoo movement, because one in four women and one in six men have been sexually assaulted. From my counselling experience, those figures are understated. It happens a lot more than people realise. It almost happened to me. I was a young naive man in my late teens with a ...
I wanted to Kill Him (Fatherlessness on Steroids)
The first words the caller said after I picked up the phone were, “I wanted to kill him!” “Kill who?” I stammered. “Kill my father,” he said emphatically. Before I tell you what happened next, let me tell you his answer when I asked the question as to why he felt like killing his father. Andrew (not his real name) was the son of a travelling showman. ‘Showies’ travel around the ...
