People call a lot of relationships ‘marriage’. Everything from cohabitation (common law marriage) to civil contracts (secular marriage) to the Judeo-Christian concept of covenant.

In a Christian marriage, there is a desire for the marriage to be open to the Lord and a willingness to look to scripture and the Church community for direction. If you married in a Christian church, on your wedding day, you stood before the Community of the Faithful and were asked to accept a mission to love each other in the same way that Christ loves the Church.

In this way you became a living sign of that love to the community. In your will to love each other, to literally give yourselves to each other, you became a ‘Sacrament’ – that is, a manifestation of the real presence of Jesus among us.

Lifelong Covenant

A Sacrament is not just a symbol. It actually causes what it symbolises by providing the grace needed to make it happen. The Sacrament of Marriage (also called Matrimony) is not the wedding ceremony and the sign is not the rings. Instead, it is your love relationship with each other, lived out every day. Your daily self-giving love is the sign of God’s love for us; God is truly present to us in and through that love.

Therefore, couples who marry in the church, and not just at the church, have a very different idea of what marriage should be. Marriage, or Matrimony, for them is a covenant, a sacred promise made, not only to each other, but also to the Church.

This covenant is a pledge to freely give themselves in love to each other, totally, faithfully and fruitfully their whole life long in imitation of Christ.

These couples, however, do not undertake this sacred covenant on their own. Through their engagement with their faith community, they have access to powerful resources called ‘graces’. The Church holds out a magnificent vision of generous self-donation that can inspire you to raise your ambitions for your marriage. These ambitions will be supported by the people of God through prayer and the Sacraments, encouraging you to strive, with ever greater determination, to achieve them.

Think about it…

1. Do you approach your relationship with a ‘marriage’ mentality (ie a personal relationship) or a ‘matrimonied’ mentality (ie a relationship with a divine purpose)?
2. Does being “Matrimonied” as opposed to “married” make any difference?

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Republished with thanks to SmartLoving. Image courtesy of Adobe.