The Law of Iroquois says, “In every deliberation, we must consider the impact of our decisions on the next seven generations”. If you want to leave a legacy for your children, you should do the same. However, following such wise advice is always easier said than done. There is another saying that I learned many years ago, “If only age had youth and youth had age”. Perhaps this sums up the ...

Dads4Kids has been running leadership summits now for many years. I am constantly surprised at how effective such gatherings are at empowering men to change. I remember the phone call I got from an employer of one of the men, a week after one of our early Men & Father’s Leadership Summits. His first words on the phone were rather dramatic. “What did you do to my employee?” It was almost ...

This is an amazing story by my good friend Mark Jeffery who has four beautiful children. Mark is a single dad and a faithful board member of Dads4Kids. The short title of the story says it all, “Heroes – Dads in the Emergency Room.” My daughter sliced into her thumb with a Stanley knife – still makes my skin crawl every time I say it. When it happened she was at ...

Earlier this year Dr Jerome Teelucksingh, my friend from Trinidad in the Caribbean, called for the inaugural celebration of International Day of the Boy Child on May 16. Dr Jerome Teelucksingh also founded International Mens Day. I suggested to Jerome for the sake of ease of communication that we shorten it to International Boys’ Day or more colloquially just Boys Day. Jerome said yes, and so the team at Dads4Kids helped ...

They say a friend in need is a friend indeed. Yes, we need your help. Dads4Kids the organisation I volunteer for is in the process of renewing our website and newsletter. We also want to grow and improve our range of services, but we need your expert advice to do so. All we are asking is that you give 5 minutes of your precious time to fill out the Dads4Kids Online ...

Mothers are under more pressure today than they have ever been. That’s why Dads4Kids is initiating a “Thanking Mothers” CSA TV Ad campaign scheduled for release in the lead up to Mother’s Day on 13 May 2018. Unfortunately, the amazing sacrifice that mothers make is often invisible to Dads and children. Mothers are not appreciated as much as they should be in the broader community either. The team at Dads4KIds want ...

If there is one thing I am passionate about it is dads connecting with their children for the purpose of transitioning into manhood and or womanhood. This ceremony is often called a rite of passage but it could just as easily be called a celebration of womanhood or a celebration of manhood. The Jews, in their culture, call it a ‘bar mitzvah’ for boys and a ‘bat mitzvah’ for girls. This ...

I hate change because change brings challenge. I love my comfort zone. When someone asks me to change, I usually feel bad because there is a real likelihood that I was wrong in the first place. Most of us don’t like being wrong. We all like to stay in our comfort zone. I have always been a pretty messy person. When I was growing up I used to clean my room ...

Australia will never forget Easter 2018. While much of the nation was celebrating the death and resurrection of the most ethical man in all of history, the greater part of Australia was mourning the death of ‘ethics in sport’ with no sign of resurrection in sight. The good news is that the 9th Commandment is now law in Australian cricket. “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor (to win ...

Editors Note: Mike Atherton’s deeply moving yet honest article in the Australia about the high cost of the fall from grace for the Australian Cricket Captain called “Smith’s tears a jolt to senses for every father” is reprinted here as a salient reminder to all fathers that our our children take more notice of our actions than our words. The Australian 12:00AM March 31, 2018 By  Mike Atherton There was something deeply ...

Editors Note: Patrick Smiths hard hitting article in the Australian called “Ball-tampering scandal: Lack of leadership spreads rot through the nation” has more than a ring of truth about it and deserves to be read by more people. Hence we publish it here on the Justaman blog. The Australian – March 31, 2018 PATRICK SMITH Don’t cry for once-upon-a-time Test captain Steve Smith. He seems to have that under control for himself. Stick a hose ...

Over six weeks ago I wrote these words: “Every now and then a moment comes when someone fires a bolt of truth into the mayhem of modern culture and the repercussions are felt around the world, in a good way! Such a moment was the historic interview by Cathy Newman, an avowed radical feminist, with a mild but firm professor, Dr Jordan Peterson from Canada, a highly intelligent advocate for common ...

Editors Note: We republish full articles from Newspapers very rarely but Dr Jordan Petersen is a very rare Individual in sea of mediocrity. Yes his book is well worth the read for many different reasons. Particularly useful if you are a man who is seeking meaning to your life.  Jordan asks the hard questions and is not afraid to say he does not know either which is a healthy sign of ...

“Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me”, is a saying that I recited to the bullies at school when they taunted me and the other kids who were my friends. I am not so sure that is true anymore. Words come from intentions and intentions become actions. Words are powerful, and they certainly can hurt us, but they can also be a great blessing. Dr ...

Every now and again an article is written that just has to be reprinted in full. Professor Paul Kengor has written a brilliant expose called “Fatherless Shooters … as Liberals Push for Fatherless Families” on the tragic outworking on of the Boy crisis. Of course, as broken men we must share part of the blame as all these things have happened on our watch.  The term “Liberal” in American speak is ...

The great writer Ernest Hemingway said, “As you get older it is harder to have heroes, but it is sort of necessary”. I have found that to be true. Age does not diminish the need for heroes, they just become harder to find, but they are still necessary. Our children, especially when they are younger, look up to us as heroes. For the sake of our children, we as fathers also ...

This week’s newsletter is called ‘Hard to be Humble’. I had suggested ‘Father Eats Humble Pie’ or ‘Bossy Boots Bites the Dust’ but I was over-ruled so I accepted the sanitized ‘Hard to be Humble’. Let me explain: Many years ago one of our former board members, Phil Latz had the bright idea of organising a fundraising 40km bike ride called ‘Ride Around the Lake’.  This was a ride around Lake ...

Let me share with you Ten Tips for Dads. The tips are not all my own ideas but that just shows that there is truth to the statement, “There is nothing new under the sun.” I can assure you however that I have practiced all these ideas with varying degrees of success. If you can put all these ideas into practice you will be a lot better father than I, which ...

Several years ago, Dads4Kids organized a competition in which we asked the children of Australia for their input and ideas on how best to help them. Five hundred and seventy-five entries from young and old were received. Lyle Sims, one of the top three winners of the Dads4Kids Competition observed wisely, “Our young people are the future of our nation. As they go, so goes the nation. Our future is in ...

Editors Note from Warwick Marsh: This heartfelt and moving story should encourage us all as men to invest in our marriages for the sake of our children, ourselves, our wife and our families future. I reprint it for your inspiration. My Parents Had a Divorce by A. E. a student at the University of California Irvine online newspaper Volume 42, Issue 15 My parents got divorced shortly after Sept 11. It ...