You need support.

First, make sure you have a good support system in place. Take care of your own physical and emotional health so you’re ready for the demands of day-to-day single parenting. The feeling of being alone as a parent can be staggering, and you need others you can rely on to assist you.

Dads, especially, more than single mums, seem to hesitate to seek out peers. But it’s comforting to realise there are other dads going through the same adjustments and feelings. It really does help to bounce ideas off another parent with whom you have something in common. That other dad can help you ward off feelings of inadequacy. Look to your church, your kids’ school, or other established groups for support.

Also, don’t hesitate to take advantage of it when your friends and family offer to help. You do need to take a break and have adult conversations every now and then.

Your kids still need discipline.

The second issue that really challenges single custodial fathers is discipline. You really start to miss having someone on your side when you’re in the middle of a battle. Many single parents feel so guilty after putting the kids through a divorce that they try to avoid being at odds with their children, even for a few minutes. They may overindulge their kids or hesitate to discipline at all.

Establish rules and standards that you and your child’s mother have agreed on, and then do your best to enforce those boundaries consistently. A child’s unhappiness will fade quickly, but the values you teach through discipline will last for many years.

As a single dad, your situation may not be ideal, but your kids can still thrive and succeed.

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