International Men’s Day was celebrated on the 19th of November, 2021. Its message was stopping the gender war and bringing men and women together. This theme was a welcome change to the media provocation of the tensions between men and women.
For so long, the cultural elites and some strains of feminism (and masculinism) have fuelled the divisions between the sexes instead of bridging the gender divide.
Dr John Gray has said, “When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom.” There is a profoundly spiritual aspect of the masculine and feminine divide that needs a divine diagnosis.
To paraphrase Anti-Nazi Swiss theologian and flawed father of five, Karl Barth, “Only weak men and rebellious women reject man’s God-given responsibility towards woman.” He added, “Man can only be genuinely human with woman.”
Refuting the radical feminism of his day, Barth painstakingly explained how the “strong man is not a tyrannical man”. The “distinctive characteristic of the tyrannical as opposed to the strong man,” Barth writes, “is that he does not serve the order of fellowship between man and woman, but makes the order serve himself.”
The tyrannical man is self-centred. He breaks with woman, betraying the order of this fellowship.
The strong man, on the other hand, is a servant-leader. He is strong because he understands his “masculine responsibility” towards woman, and “is vigilant for the interests of both sexes.”
Man is to be a man in his relationship to woman; as woman is to be a woman in her relationship to man.
A woman is not expected “to make herself his slave or property.”
Albeit somewhat shaded, Barth says, this is the intent behind what was once known as chivalry. He calls this other-centredness the foundation of man’s life-partnership with woman. Man is for woman; woman is for man.
There should never be exploitation of this relational order, where man is placed over against woman, or woman against man.
Us with them must never become us versus them.
Barth’s order of fellowship helps to explain the importance of this year’s theme for International Men’s Day.
On the 19th of November, the world celebrated the beauty of man for woman and woman for man.
Recognising the importance of man’s responsibility towards woman – and woman’s responsibility towards man – sums up one of the six pillars of International Men’s Day.
This year it was focused on promoting “Better relations between men and women.” The goal has been to “improve gender relations and promote gender equality not only for men but for women too.”
To paraphrase mother and feminist Jean Bethke Elshtain’s assertion in her political tome criticising the militant mutations of feminist theory:
“Family man and social man predates political man…the life-partnership of man for woman, woman for man, is essential in establishing the minimal foundation of human, social existence.”
The high rate of divorce illustrates how man and woman are far from perfect in resolving their differences.
This is not helped by systems that favour one over against the other.
In some cases, there is too little togetherness and too much self-centeredness. The result is a shattered partnership where men and women become another dehumanised, cold statistic.
This goes against how man is to be for woman, and woman is to be for man. The order of fellowship frees them to be free of each other. Not free to hate each other. The richness of this fellowship liberates both man and woman.
Hence the importance of this year’s International Men’s Day theme celebrating the age-old life-giving potential of the man with woman life-partnership.
The order of fellowship, as viewed by Elshtain, and explained by Karl Barth, humanises humanity. The strong man and reciprocating woman, as opposed to the overbearing tyrant, and his resentful victim.
We are better and stronger together. With that said, happy International Men’s Day!
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