Do you find yourself finishing others’ sentences, pigeonholing people, speaking over them, or multitasking when others are speaking to you? If so, then perhaps it is listening reset time…

Would you call yourself a good listener?  Most people would answer positively to that question — but when those who know you are asked that question, will their answer be as positive?

From Zero To Listening Hero

Real Talk 4 Real Men co-host Chris Field is an expert on communication, having stared on his own radio and television shows and spent most of his life in media.  But it wasn’t always this way.

Back in the early 70’s, Chris thought that everyone was a good listener — including him. But an unexpected corporate-type talk on the topic became a life-changing moment for Chris.

He not only discovered that he was actually a terrible listener, but he also came to realise how selfish he was, and what that said to others about himself and them.

In episode #23 of Real Talk 4 Real Men, Chris and Guy explain the truth behind Chris’ favourite saying for 2017:

“The more I talk to people, the luckier I get.”
~ Chris Field

You can listen now by streaming below:

Verbal Ping-Pong

Chris discovered that just about everything a bad listener did he did. He discovered how ignorant he really was, and the devastating impact that this had on others and on himself.listening is love

“A lot of people don’t listen, they just play verbal ping-pong.”
~ Chris Field

In this episode you will learn:

  • The common traits of a poor listener
  • At the deepest level, what poor listening says about you
  • The three types of listening, and why you need to get to at least level 2
  • The power behind the acronym W.A.I.T
  • Why listening is non-negotiable if you say you love someone
  • How listening is a powerful gift that you can keep giving — for free
  • How you can change your game

The Point of Listening

Listening well has a purpose. The benefit is not just a deeper and more accurate understanding, but it communicates a level of care and affirmation that can be life-changing.

“The purpose of a man’s heart are like deep waters,
but a man of understanding will draw them out.”
~ Proverbs 20:5

Today, Chris finds that his expert listening skills keep coming back to him in benefits that he never intended nor expected — so much so that people keep saying, “How did that happen, you are so lucky!”

But it isn’t luck — it is the gift of listening that keeps on giving back.

Do you want to become a great listener?

Today is your lucky day, because this episode will start you on the track to becoming a great listener.

I hope you greatly enjoy this episode. Leave a comment, and let Chris and I know the benefit you get from it. Love to hear from you.


Originally published at Real Men 24/7.
Photo by Andrea Piacquadio from Pexels.

About the Author: Guy Mullon and Chris Field

Chris Field and Guy Mullon team up as the podcast bros to bring you Real Talk 4 Real Men. It is a show where they tackle the real issues faced by men in today's world. With guests or just with the two of them, you will always be guaranteed to get challenged and encouraged and to get it real across the life topics of business, family, faith and a man's own well-being. You can find Chris' blog here and find his YouTube channel here.

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