• arguments / stonewalling

Arguments: It’s All About Connection

No one likes being in an argument. Arguments stir up intense emotions and can leave us feeling misunderstood and wounded. Yet, not all arguments are equal. Arguments mean different things in different circumstances. An argument is defined as a work of persuasion. We use arguments to convince others of our point of view. Well-thought arguments are crucial to social discourse and an important tool in workplace decision-making. When we make a ...

By |2023-08-02T08:12:03+10:00August 2nd, 2023|LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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On the Other Side of Conflict

My together time with my daughters makes three people. When we are together, each of us brings our own measure of joy, mellowness, sanity, sorrow, silliness, delight, curiosity, affection, wonder and all the other hurdy-gurdy of emotions. Even though I try to have my dad radar tuned in to the emotions of two daughters, sometimes it can be a tough read. Tuning in and applying the right combination of daddy empathy ...

By |2023-07-18T23:29:40+10:00July 18th, 2023|SINGLE DADS, Children, Dads, FAMILIES|0 Comments
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Dad Versus Conflict

Learning from conflict will make any dad a better one. “A joyful heart is good medicine”, wrote Solomon, “but a crushed spirit dries up the bones” (Prov 17:22). In his context, Solomon understood ‘joyful’ to mean delight, celebration, a form of cheerfulness, the shining of something bright. There’s a reason he speaks of joy and being crushed with a slight pause between two breaths. A joyful heart and a crushed spirit ...

By |2023-04-12T14:13:21+10:00April 13th, 2023|Dads|0 Comments
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Like Parent, Like Child

The most powerful influence on a couple is their family of origin. Good or bad, our experiences in our childhood prepared us for marriage. The young couple sitting opposite us had been married only a few years. They were experiencing some health challenges, but this is not what brought them to us; they were locked in a perpetual low-grade argument that never seemed to end. They were so ‘wired’, almost every ...

By |2023-02-14T17:28:03+10:00February 15th, 2023|LOVE & MARRIAGE, Children, FAMILIES|0 Comments
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How to Fight Fair

‘Shhhh… not in front of the kids!’ We’ve all been there: In the car with a captive audience… or at the dinner table. An argument erupts and the question is: do you save it for later? Or just let it all out in front of the kids? Studies conducted at the University of Rochester, NY, found that it’s okay for your kids to see you argue, as long you work it ...

By |2022-11-24T11:43:30+10:00November 28th, 2022|MOTHERS, Children, FAMILIES, LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
  • divorce

The Innocent Victims of ‘No-Fault’ Divorce

The “no-fault” divorce revolution that spread across the Western world was led in the 1970s by members of the cultural, academic, legal and political elites, in particular by radical feminists who made the case for easy divorce as a means of women’s liberation. By declaring marriage to be an oppressive institution, they demanded “no fault” as a means of allowing wives to escape marriage and achieve a “right of exit”. Although ...

By |2022-08-26T11:01:48+10:00August 26th, 2022|SINGLE DADS, FAIRNESS & JUSTICE|0 Comments
  • marriage

Let’s Stick Together

“For an increasing number of long-term marriages, it’s no longer a case of ‘until death do us part,’ it’s a matter of until the children depart from the family nest,” writes Rachel Browne in a Sydney Morning Herald article, “Parents wait until children go, then do the same thing.” Suddenly finding your busy life full of activities attached to children, and a home in a constant state of noise, and endless ...

By |2022-08-18T23:27:17+10:00August 18th, 2022|MOTHERS, FAITH, LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
  • restraint - conflict resolution

A Little Restraint Goes a Long Way

Taking a pause and practising restraint in the midst of conflict allows you to identify how old wounds are being triggered by the current situation, and re-focus in order to resolve the conflict peacefully, repairing the relationship and deepening your love. It happens all the time -- one of us does or says something and it triggers a harsh reaction. To break the habit of reactivity, try this mindfulness tool to ...

By |2022-02-24T16:36:55+10:00February 24th, 2022|LOVE & MARRIAGE|0 Comments
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