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  • this bloke

I Know This Bloke

I know this bloke: he is an old fella, but a single dad. He has been through the mill before; the ‘family court mill’, I mean. Anyway, he now has a 9-year-old little girl who is living with him. She is a beautiful, vibrant, loving, caring little girl. He has no court orders, hasn't been to the courts, hasn't applied, just has an agreement with his wife, and the child is ...

By |2021-08-27T21:40:18+10:00August 28th, 2021|FAIRNESS & JUSTICE, FAMILIES, SINGLE DADS|0 Comments
  • fathers

Freedom From the Fear of Failing — New Fathers and Navy Seals

Editor's Note: This is a profoundly real and self-revelatory article for those fathers who are grappling with the deeper issues of fatherhood. Full congratulations to Rod Lampard for sharing his journey with us. This is a case of strong meat for strong men. ___ “You’re just like your father.” This was the fictional narrative of my formative years. Instead of using my name when things got heated between us, my family ...

By |2021-07-16T20:09:21+10:00July 16th, 2021|Dads, FAITH, GOOD BOOKS & VIDEOS, NEW DADS|0 Comments

Good News and Bad News

It is now ten days since International Men’s Day. The good news and the bad news just keep coming in. It is all very humbling. At times it is hard not to shed a tear. This bit of sad (bad) news contained in the letter below highlights why the team at Dads4Kids do what we do, and why we so greatly appreciate your support. I will let Jonathan share his story. ...

By |2021-09-11T11:17:16+10:00November 29th, 2020|MANHOOD|0 Comments

The Power of Apology

I could have titled this article The amazing things that happen when a father says “sorry”, but having the courage to say sorry and exercise forgiveness will work for anyone: dad, mum, male or female. Some years ago, at my daughter’s engagement party, I had the honour of giving a short speech. Recently I wrote about the fact that “in families, change is the only constant”. What I didn’t tell you ...

By |2021-05-05T14:57:41+10:00August 22nd, 2020|FAMILIES|0 Comments

Loud Krazy Love

I remember when my teenage sons first played Korn’s music for me. I found it really disturbing. It just wasn’t my kind of music. I had grown up playing blues, rock and reggae on my guitar. I found the music very dark. The discordant riffs were off-putting as were Jonathan Davis growling, sometimes screaming, lyrics. The New York Times said in 1996 that the band was “mad at everyone including themselves”. ...

By |2021-05-14T13:26:51+10:00June 8th, 2019|Dads, FAITH, FAMILIES, SEXUAL INTEGRITY|1 Comment

The High Cost of Putting a Razor to Masculinity

Gillette has jumped on the #metoo bandwagon, and in the process has derogated masculinity. I have a lot of sympathy for the #metoo movement, because one in four women and one in six men have been sexually assaulted. From my counselling experience, those figures are understated.  It happens a lot more than people realise. It almost happened to me. I was a young naive man in my late teens with a ...

By |2021-05-08T14:09:31+10:00February 2nd, 2019|Dads, MANHOOD, STEPDADS|1 Comment
  • Andrew

I wanted to Kill Him (Fatherlessness on Steroids)

The first words the caller said after I picked up the phone were, “I wanted to kill him!” “Kill who?” I stammered. “Kill my father,” he said emphatically. Before I tell you what happened next, let me tell you his answer when I asked the question as to why he felt like killing his father. Andrew (not his real name) was the son of a travelling showman. ‘Showies’ travel around the ...

By |2021-06-06T08:55:03+10:00October 14th, 2017|Dads, TRAINING|1 Comment
  • domestic violence

I Just Got Off the Phone

I just got off the phone from another dad: devastated, crying, sobbing, absolutely gutted. "How can the mother of my children be so hurtful? I don't understand it”, he said between the tears. "I just want to see my kids. How hard is that?” Yesterday I was counselling one of our guys not to react. He was receiving abusive SMSes on his mobile that were particularly distressing to him. Not onem ...

By |2021-09-06T14:48:27+10:00November 27th, 2005|FAIRNESS & JUSTICE, SINGLE DADS|0 Comments
  • hurt

Good-bye

(A goodbye letter written by a mate.) Dear Jane, Even though it will probably take you only five minutes to read this, if you read it at all, it took me a long time to write it. It also took a lot of courage to speak my mind and my heart. I hope you don’t see this as an attack on you, it’s not. Forgive me for my anger, it’s necessary. ...

By |2021-09-06T14:10:01+10:00July 31st, 2005|FAITH, SINGLE DADS|0 Comments
  • shared custody

Shared Physical Custody

Letter to the Prime Minister from The Lone Fathers Association of Australia Part One General comments The LFAA, as the national peak body representing separated fathers and their children, wishes to inform you of our extreme disappointment with the Report on “Shared Custody” by the House of Representatives Committee on Family and Community Affairs released on 29 December 2003. While the fathers and children of Australia have asked for bread, the ...

By |2021-06-29T11:34:08+10:00January 11th, 2004|Children, FAIRNESS & JUSTICE, SINGLE DADS|0 Comments
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