Sociologist David Papenoe said that no civilisation ever survived after its family life deteriorated.

But if you don’t believe him, listen to GK Chesterton, “This triangle of truisms, of father, mother and child, cannot be destroyed; it can only destroy those civilisations which disregard it.”

If three words could ever sum up the work of Dads4Kids it would be ‘father, mother, child’. These three words are the foundation for everything we know. Family, economy, prosperity, national and global and a million other things besides.

Let’s take one step back and talk about the real foundation for everything which happens when a man and women come together ‘au naturel’. It is called sex.

Last week I wrote about ‘Keeping it Zipped’ which was essentially a very personal plea for sexual integrity. To quote from Sixteen Reasons for Sexual Integrity which Alison and I helped write, along with four other authors.

In Australia’s Macquarie dictionary the word integrity means ‘soundness of moral principle and character; uprightness; honesty. The state of being whole, entire or undiminished’. In the same dictionary the word sexual is defined as ‘having to do with sex’. Therefore according to Macquarie’s Dictionary ‘Sexual Integrity’ means ‘having soundness of moral principle, uprightness, character and honesty in all matters to do with sex’.

We must make it clear at the outset that the authors of this document believe that the sexual expression of love between a man and a woman is a wonderful gift that defies human logic and expression with words. The exquisite mystery and joy of loving sex is often equated with a spiritual union that is beyond human understanding.

This celebration of sexual love is found in ancient writings and often receives its best expression in the hands of our poets and songwriters, ‘Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it’ are the words describing sexual love written by King Solomon almost 3000 years ago. Sting says, ‘Love is stronger than justice!’

Perhaps the words of Joan Crawford sum up the reasons for the need for an awakening of sexual integrity. “Love is a fire. But whether it is going to warm your hearth or burn down your house you can never tell.” Sexual expression of love within certain boundaries and moral guidelines is a fire to warm our hearts and souls but without proper boundaries it can create great damage both individually and to the broader community.

Having sex requires boundaries. The Greens have put a bill before the Senate to push the boundaries further when it comes to sex. But is this a good thing?

Called the ‘Recognition of Foreign Marriages Bill 2014’, Senator Sue Boyce has described it as a “backdoor way to increase pressure for same-sex marriage in Australia”.

The introduction of homosexual marriage will destroy marriage as we know it. Marriage redefined is marriage destroyed.

Marriage has suffered immensely over the last few decades.

Justice Lionel Murphy brought in the family destruction act in 1976 with what seemed like a good idea at the time, ‘no fault divorce’.

Divorce skyrocketed and marriage was demeaned. Our children are still paying the price today.

The notion of ‘marriage equality’ seems like a good idea on face value. But on closer inspection it is shown to be illusory. Homosexual marriage robs children of their natural biological right to a mother and a father.

In California, where marriage was ‘redefined’ a couple of years ago, the terms ‘husband’ and ‘wife’ have recently been taken out of legislation because it was ‘discriminatory’.

In Spain the words ‘father’ and ‘mother’ have been removed from government legislation to accommodate gender destructive ideology.

These same sort of negative legislative outcomes have occurred where ever such legislation has been introduced. In some cases people have lost their freedom or been fined by government bodies for disagreeing with homosexual marriage.

An example of this is the father in Massachusetts, USA, who did not want his child to be taught about homosexual relationships when he was in kindergarten. This father was jailed because he objected.


Even many homosexuals think that redefining marriage is a bad idea.

Doug Mainwaring in an article titled, “I’m Gay and I Oppose Same Sex Marriage” says:

“While religion and tradition have led many to their positions on same-sex marriage, it’s also possible to oppose same-sex marriage based on reason and experience.

…I am opposed to same-sex marriage. Because activists have made marriage, rather than civil unions, their goal, I am viewed by many as a self-loathing, traitorous gay. So be it. I prefer to think of myself as a reasoning, intellectually honest human being.

The notion of same-sex marriage is implausible, yet political correctness has made stating the obvious a risky business. Genderless marriage is not marriage at all. It is something else entirely.

Opposition to same-sex marriage is characterized in the media, at best, as clinging to “old-fashioned” religious beliefs and traditions, and at worst, as homophobia and hatred…

Gay culture continues to promote the sexualization of all (viewing one’s self and other males primarily as sexual beings), while proving itself nearly bankrupt when it comes to fostering any other aspect of male/male relationships.

…To be fully formed, children need to be free to generously receive from and express affection to parents of both genders. Genderless marriages deny this fullness.

There are perhaps a hundred different things, small and large, that are negotiated between parents and kids every week. Moms and dads interact differently with their children. To give kids two moms or two dads is to withhold from them someone whom they desperately need and deserve in order to be whole and happy. It is to permanently etch “deprivation” on their hearts…

We are in the middle of a fierce battle that is no longer about rights. It is about a single word, “marriage.”

Gay and lesbian activists, and more importantly, the progressives urging them on, seek to redefine marriage in order to achieve an ideological agenda that ultimately seeks to undefine families as nothing more than one of an array of equally desirable “social units,” and thus open the door to the increase of government’s role in our lives.

And while same-sex marriage proponents suggest that the government should perhaps just stay out of their private lives, the fact is, now that children are being engineered for gay and lesbian couples, a process that involves multiple other adults who have potential legal custody claims on these children, the potential for government’s involvement in these same-sex marriage households is staggering…

Marriage is not an elastic term. It is immutable. It offers the very best for children and society. We should not adulterate nor mutilate its definition, thereby denying its riches to current and future generations.”

It would seem that Dads4Kids is not alone in saying it’s time to put our children first.

Love Work

If Doug Mainwarwing, who wrote the above, hasn’t convinced you that every child needs a mother and a father then watch this viral video that has got over 8 million hits in six weeks. The living reality of a father’s love for his daughter and the willing legal deprivation of that experience of a father’s love by government is an unconscionable act of social injustice.

“Best First Date”


Can you help defend the right of a child to their biological birthright?

Send a one sentence submission to the Legal Constitutional Affairs Committee, telling them why you believe the government should put our children first. Ask them to reject the ‘Recognition of Foreign Marriages Bill 2014’. Make sure you include your full name and address. Tell your friends to send their own emails as well.

Together we can make a difference.

Thank you for your help to provide a voice for the children of Australia.
Warwick Marsh

Published On: July 26th, 20140 Comments

About the Author: Warwick Marsh

Warwick Marsh has been married to Alison Marsh since 1975; they have five children and nine grandchildren, and he and his wife live in Wollongong in NSW, Australia. He is a family and faith advocate, social reformer, musician, TV producer, writer and public speaker. Warwick is a leader in the Men’s and Family Movement, and he is well-known in Australia for his advocacy for children, marriage, manhood, family, fatherhood and faith. Warwick is passionate to encourage men to be great fathers and to know the greatest Father of all. The Father in Whom “there is no shadow of turning.”

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