Doing nothing is a novel concept in our 24/7 media-driven world. Certainly, for me, with a tendency to Type A driven-ness, doing nothing can be a difficult but much-needed past-time.
Yesterday I spent a good bit of the day helping expand my wife’s worm farm, in between re-reading Jim Collins masterful exposition on management called ‘Good to Great”. For me, this was akin to doing nothing. Did I mention I had a catnap on the lounge? Ah, the joys of doing nothing.
We all need these sorts of days to preserve our sanity and also our ability to just ‘be’.
The danger we face as men is that we identify so much with what we do, that we forget who we are and whose we are.
Christmas holidays remind us that we are born from above with eternity in our heart. The Christmas season and the presence of our loved ones at family gatherings remind us that we are husbands, fathers and uncles. We can even be grandfathers, fathers-in-law and great grandfathers. These are the relationships we must value, and these are the relationships that really matter.
Nevertheless, our work is important. It’s just about balance in our lives and acknowledging who we are as a human being. The Bible talks about body, soul and spirit. Ruth has more.
Ruth Limkin, CEO of The Banyans, a wellness and therapy service, argues that humanity has six core facets of well-being: occupational, emotional, social, intellectual, spiritual and physical. The diagram below depicts it well —
Work, or occupation, is important, especially for men. The need for a man to enjoy and succeed in his work is the reality of our masculinity.
But if, as men, we neglect our emotional, social, intellectual, spiritual and physical needs in the pursuit of our work, we become hollowed out and prone to burnout.
In late November I took my wife to Vanuatu to celebrate 44 years of being in love, for an eight-day break. I had promised to take her to the South Pacific 4 years ago, but I was much delayed. My wife was gracious with the delay, but joyful in the delivery.
Warwick Marsh has been married to Alison Marsh since 1975; they have five children and nine grandchildren, and he and his wife live in Wollongong in NSW, Australia. He is a family and faith advocate, social reformer, musician, TV producer, writer and public speaker.
Warwick is a leader in the Men’s and Family Movement, and he is well-known in Australia for his advocacy for children, marriage, manhood, family, fatherhood and faith. Warwick is passionate to encourage men to be great fathers and to know the greatest Father of all. The Father in Whom “there is no shadow of turning.”
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