I need help and there simply is none available (with the exception of Lifeline phone support).
I don’t want to tell a story or get even with anyone. I am not interested in seeking publicity to badmouth any agency or my former partner. I simply want people to see why so many men quietly slip off the face of the earth…
Let me show you just how many departments, agencies and legal matters you have to deal with at any given time, and how you have to structure your whole life around these things while proving to the world that you are the model citizen and perfect parent.
I want you to see why men commit suicide, so you can show the world and somebody can stop it from happening. I can’t stop it by myself, and I don’t want to just quietly slip away without first trying all that I can to make it right.
Many dads go from being partial victims of a broken relationship, to full-blown villains.
While some dads genuinely deserve hardcore legal boundaries – mine did up to a point – the ones who don’t still get tarred, and feathered with the “toxic masculinity,” one-size-fits-all brush.
This could be avoided with the right care, applied to dads at the right time.
Holistic care for families shattered by separation, is the primary concern of non-profit, Fathers 4 Justice, who lobby government to end the divorce court’s inadvertent fatherless society.
F4J aims to stop men from ending their lives unnecessarily, because they’ve been the whipping boy of a dead-end judicial system that is supposed to be blind in its application of justice.
Passionate about getting equal care for kids, the non-profit aims to end fatherlessness, and ‘the cancer of family breakdowns.’
As well as ‘ensure children have a meaningful, loving relationship with their fathers.’
Founder, Matt O’Connor has been there, and knows what’s at stake.
He wants to win dads ‘a legal presumption of 50/50 shared parenting,’ and protect families against the ‘cruel and degrading treatment which can result in their forced separation in secret courts.’
Calling “fatherlessness an obscenity”, F4J said, “no child should be denied their human right to a father, yet nearly one in three children now lives without a father in the UK – that’s nearly 4 million fatherless children”. (Australia’s stats are one in six).
O’Connor began Fathers 4 Justice in 2001.
He was denied access to his two boys, and experienced the death-blows delivered by dad hating divorce courts.
Sharing his story, O’Connor testified to “fighting depression”, while trying to process powerlessness, and loss. He started to “drink heavily, and became suicidal”.
An epiphany pulled him back from the brink, and birthed what is now a pro-family organisation, “inspiring desperate dads to climb bridges, instead of throwing themselves off them”.
Fed up with being treated like a criminal, O’Connor walked out of the court after telling a judge, “he no longer recognised their authority”, because “the treatment of fathers in the family courts was a violation of their right to family life”.
The father of two’s non-violent protest ended in a resolution, allowing him to “re-establish a normal relationship with his sons”.
This success, and the hope it offers both dads, and concerned mums, powers the Fathers 4 Justice platform.
If this argument is used: “It’s not about dad’s rights, it’s about what’s best for the kids,” then 50/50 co-parenting, wherever reconciliation is impossible, should be the goal (see here, here and here).
Rod, his wife Jonda, and their five kids are homeschooling veterans. Rod spent 12 years in management at Koorong, has a Bachelor’s Degree in Ministry & Theology, and is a writer for the theological, politically edgy news site Caldron Pool. Rod also writes for the Spectator. Find his personal blog here.
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