‘St Valentine was imprisoned beheaded & buried on 14 Feb 269 AD for helping persecuted Christians & marrying Christian couples! While in prison he prayed for his jailer’s daughter & her blindness was healed. On the day of his execution, he left her a note signed, ‘Your Valentine.’
The 3rd century martyrdom of Valentine was part of the sporadic swath of murders of Christians sanctioned by Imperial applause, and ‘conducted by provincial rulers.’ (Jonathon Hill).
Get creative with what you’ve got. Dress the table with flowers from a garden, add a candle. Real roses are expensive. An alternative is to fill the centre of the table with a box of Roses chocolates.
2. Organising to take the day off together
Co-ordinate schedules. Make an effort to pause, breath and create a one-day oasis away from the rat race. Make the day a date.
3. Grabbing coffee, and taking a stroll along a river or beach
Pick a favourite spot. An easy walk allows for conversation. Coffee warms, and exercise enlivens. Leave the phones at home.
4. Having a special night in
Plug in some clear Christmas lights. Gather the family. Fill the evening with board games, favourite movies, popcorn, or a fruit and cheese board platter.
5. Attending a free or relatively low-cost event
Nightlife calendars usually offer low-cost events, which are sometimes free depending on where you live. Find museums, art exhibits or night markets.
Whether the road to a Valentine’s victory takes the form of the Dads 4 Kids Valentine’s Day Challenge, or following these five basic ideas, the basis for Valentine’s Day isn’t Cupid’s arrow. It’s a 3rd Century Christian martyr, who paid the ultimate price in the service of others.
Valentine’s Day is a day of remembrance, probably as much as it is romance.
Adopting this origin story resurrects the authentic meaning of Valentine’s Day, wresting a holy day from the cathedrals of commerce who’ve blunted our perspective through their unholy over-commercialisation.
Grasping the day’s raw meaning carries with it the power to be relationally transformative.
This is because the best and most inexpensive way to say, “I love you,” is simply to be present and attentive.
Rod, his wife Jonda, and their five kids are homeschooling veterans. Rod spent 12 years in management at Koorong, has a Bachelor’s Degree in Ministry & Theology, and is a writer for the theological, politically edgy news site Caldron Pool. Rod also writes for the Spectator. Find his personal blog here.
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