Fatherhood Foundation
Issue 247 - 14th May, 2007 Go to our website Here


Hello Friend

 

I must be one of the stupidest people I know. I was invited to speak at the opening of a local charity called 'Assist' run by Brian Pember, a friend of mine. I wrote the address down in my diary when Brian invited me to speak. I took my diary with me in the car but, guess what, I didn't look at my diary and ended up going to the wrong place. I am sure you would never do that sort of thing. I told Brian later that my favourite Bible verse is, 'God chooses the foolish things to confound the wise'. This is my only claim to fame - I am very foolish. I still have a problem with the 'wise' bit.

 

Over the years the only way I have learned to survive day-to-day life is to learn to laugh at myself. You might like to laugh along with me - it will keep you healthy. For this reason we have devoted a whole section of our newsletter to laughter for the last five years. Also our Fatherhood Foundation website www.fatherhood.org.au  features laughter so prominently in its heading: Love, Laugh, Listen & Learn.

 

Laughter is vital to successful parenting. Laughter is vital for your children to have fun and for you to keep your sanity.

Laughter is the shortest distance between two people and a cheerful heart is good medicine.

Laughter strengthens family relationships and helps keep you and your children in good health.

Parenting can be a serious business, but your children will teach you to laugh again if you allow them to.

Children laugh about 300 to 400 times a day. Adults laugh an average of 12 to 17 times a day. While in the 1930's it was estimated that people laughed approximately 16 to 18 minutes daily, now we are doing well if we manage to laugh for 6 minutes every day.

Scientists estimate that laughing 100 times is equivalent to a 10-minute workout on a rowing machine, or to 15 minutes on a stationary exercise bike. The mere act of laughing exercises the diaphragm, as well as the abdominal, respiratory, facial, leg, and back muscles.

Laughter is the BEST MEDICINE!

 

Health Benefits of Laughter

* reduce stress

* lower blood pressure

* elevate mood

* boost immune system

* improve brain functioning

* protect the heart

* connect you to others

* foster instant relaxation

* makes you feel good

 

Mental Health Benefits of Laughter

Humour enhances our ability to affiliate or connect with others.

Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.

Humour unites us, especially when we laugh together.

Laughter heals.

Laughs and smiles are enjoyed best when shared with others.

Humour changes behaviour - when we experience humour we talk more, make more eye contact with others, touch others, etc.

Humour increases energy, and with increased energy we may perform activities that we might otherwise avoid.

Finally, humour is good for mental health because it makes us feel good!

Good health is one of the many benefits of laughter. Laughter reduces our stress levels by reducing the level of stress hormones, and also helps us cope with serious illnesses.

Learn and tell jokes, get out comedy movies, do things that make you happy and laugh.

"He who has achieved success has worked well, laughed often and loved much." - Elbert Hubbard

"You can turn painful situations around through laughter. If you can find humour in anything -even poverty-you can survive it." - Bill Cosby

 

JOKE for a LAUGH

Sherlock Holmes Tests Dr Watson deduction capabilities

Sherlock Holmes and Dr Watson go on a camping trip. After a good dinner and a bottle of wine, they retire for the night, and go to sleep.

Some hours later, Holmes wakes up and nudges his faithful friend. "Watson, look up at the sky and tell me what you see."

"I see millions and millions of stars, Holmes" replies Watson.

"And what do you deduce from that?"

Watson ponders for a minute. "Well,

Astronomically, it tells me that there are millions of galaxies and potentially billions of planets.

Astrologically, I observe that Saturn is in Leo.

Horologically, I deduce that the time is approximately a quarter past three.

Meteorologically, I suspect that we will have a beautiful day tomorrow.

Theologically, I can see that God is all powerful, and that we are a small and insignificant part of the universe.

But what does it tell you, Holmes?"

Holmes is silent for a moment.

"Watson, you idiot!" he says. "Someone has stolen our tent!

 

Lovework

 

Tell your family a funny story at the meal table about something silly you did, or tell a joke, (even use the one above) or better still get your whole family to tell their favourite joke.

 

Yours for more laughter

Warwick Marsh

 

PS  You may remember Alan, who criticised our website, and my reaction/overreaction. One of the ways I coped with the associated frustration was by watching 'Mr Bean's Holiday'. I must say I found the experience thoroughly 'endomorphonising'. In other words the movie is great for a laugh especially if you are into production of film and TV. Forget the critics. Some of them have forgotten how to laugh. I recommend it highly. Great for all the family!

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Warwick Marsh  has been married to Alison for 31 years. He is the father of five children, four boys and one girl, ranging in age from 26 years to 14 years.  Warwick is a musician, songwriter, producer and public speaker who likes to think he can still laugh at himself.

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Grandads

Laughter
is a tranquiliser

with no side effects.

 

Arnold Glasow

 

 

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Laughter

 

The Real Cause of Global Warming

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Single Dads

A high profile single dad tells his story in the UK. It highlights the plight of many dads in Australia.

 

Geldof: My grief at losing my girls

 

Geldof: My grief at losing my girls

Daily Mail

14th May 2007

By Sharon Churcher

 

Bob Geldof has launched an emotional attack on custody laws that forced him to "jump through humiliating hoops" during his bitter divorce from his late wife Paula Yates.

 

The poverty campaigner and musician complains in a forthcoming TV interview that he was subjected to anti-male bias when he sought custody of his three daughters after Big Breakfast star Yates left him for her doomed romance with singer Michael Hutchence.

 

In an interview with American TV host Daphne Barak, airing on the eve of next month's G8 summit, he says the discovery that the law was "skewed" in Yates's favour - just because she was a woman - plunged him into an "ocean of grief."

 

"It freaked me out," he told Barak. "I could not live without my kids. I missed the sound of them turning in their sleep. I just wanted to go to some dark, grey corner of the world and howl into the void.

 

"The key in my pocket still fit in the door, but I was no longer allowed (to put) this key in the door and go into my home.

 

"It's very hard to get your head around that. I went to the door, and I was too humiliated to knock on my own front door.

 

"That's my house, my home, my children. I could hear them laughing in there. I was too scared of (knocking) and one of my kids opening the door and saying 'Hi Dad' and not being allowed to let me in.

 

"I didn't want to impose that on them. I didn't want it to happen to me. I didn't want her to come to the door and say, 'What are you doing here? You're not allowed to come here.'"

 

"So, I went back out, and I sat in the car and I just cried. I just stayed and watched their bedroom lights go off, and I went home. That shouldn't happen to anyone.

 

"If you put impediments in the way of men seeing their children - making them jump through all sorts of humiliating hoops - the kids become a weapon, a sword and a shield simultaneously.

 

"You're suffering so much. Eventually, no person can take that and the kids lose a father. It is hurtful."

 

Geldof, 55, finally was awarded custody of Fifi, Pixie and their sister, the model, Peaches, following a 1996 drug raid on the house where Yates and Hutchence were living.

 

After his ex-wife died in 2000 from a heroin overdose and Hutchence was found hanged, he adopted the tragic couple's daughter, Tiger Lily.

 

"What's she got to do with any of the mess?" he told Barak.

 

"She should be with those she knows and loves. She's a hoot. She's gorgeous."

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Special Feature

How to Use Humour in Business & Life

Pete Crofts

 

Extract from How to Use Humour in Business & Life by Pete Crofts- Introduction 2001 Crown Content www.crowncontent.com.au

 

#Get serious this is business!?

 

#You can't work and play at the same time!?

 

#Wipe that smile off your face!?

 

#This is no laughing matter!?

 

#What's so funny about that!?

 

It's sayings like these that litter the laugh track back to the origins of humour history. The ancient Greeks coined the work komos, which meant 'comedy' and comedy stood for 'rejoicing, festivity, merry-making and anyone in cheerful spirits' up until the Renaissance. Then comedy became confused with the word 'humour', which derived from the term humors, meaning 'the fluids in the body that stimulated a pleasant attitude and healthy disposition'.

Scholars, humorists, philosophers and psychologists, dating back as far as Plato, Socrates, and Aristotle, to Darwin and Freud, Eastman and Pittington, through to Koestler and Indess, plus scores of others, have proposed more than 100 theories of humour and laughter, some of them brilliant investigations into the social and behavioural nature of humour and laughter. Until recent times, very little research has examined the art of the science of humour. The art concerns the humorous persona, image, identity, metamessage, timing and delivery, and the science involves the study of the structural elements, the essential properties, the patterns, rules, forms and formulas of humour.

 

The history of mankind's polar-opposite attitudes could be summed up in the story of Humour and Serious, who decided to go into business together.

 

Humour thought about it and finally he said to Serious, 'While you can go on getting respect, admiration from leaders, support from religion, you will achieve astounding success; while I'll be frivolous, worthless and hounded as an outlaw'. And Serious said; 'That's all right; that's the way it is with joint ventures.' . . .

 

I own and operate the world's first Humourversity, where people are trained to use and teach humour. There are humour museums, archives and libraries. I imagine that in the not-too-distant future, large Government bodies and corporations will have humour consultants on staff to advise, personalise, localise and advertise, the image, philosophy, and communications of humour, both internally and externally.

 

Humour is no longer just an escape from economic bad times but a resource capable of generating economic good times. With this massive demand for humour, comedy and laughter, it is quite possible that in the future, humour and humorous products, services and expressions, will be key parts of our planet's economic base. Knowing what we know about humour tells us we need to know more about it; how it can be used efficiently and effectively, creatively and deliberately, personally and professionally, and nationally and internationally, for social harmony and business energy.

 

www.humourversity.com.au  Humour, Comedy & Laughter Training Fun and Profit since 1960

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Thought of the Week

 

 

 

 

Despite the cost of living...

it still remains so popular

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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All You Need is Love

The Ring Thing -

We must have marriage

 

May 11, 2007

National Review On-line

By W. Bradford Wilcox

 

Despite the fact that single motherhood never seems to go out of style with the media, motherhood typically works best - for our nation's neighbourhoods, children, and even most mums with a wedding ring. . .

 

This truth was abundantly clear to me after surveying the social-scientific literature on marriage and child well-being.

Editors Note: Wilcox quotes from the document from USA
Why Marriage Matters: Twenty-Six Conclusions from the Social Sciences. http://www.americanvalues.org/html/r-wmm.html 

 

The Australian version 21 Reasons Why Marriage Matters Strengthening and Supporting Australian Marriages is available at:

http://www.fatherhood.org.au/resources/21%20Reasons%20Why%20Marriage%20Matters%2030July04.pdf 

 

Take crime. Mothers who manage to get and stay married are much less likely to produce boys who end up terrorizing playgrounds, parks, and little old ladies walking home from the grocery store. One recent Princeton study found that boys who grew up in an intact, married family were half as likely to end up in prison as young adults. After studying murder and robbery rates in our nation's cities, Harvard sociologist Robert Sampson observed, "Family structure is one of the strongest, if not the strongest, predictor of variations in urban violence across cities in the United States." This is why neighbours should thank the married mothers on their block.

 

Or take psychological well-being. Children who are fortunate to grow up with a married mother and father are much less likely to find themselves in serious emotional trouble. By contrast, children who grow up without their father are significantly more likely to suffer from depression. And for some children, it gets much worse than depression. In the last half-century, suicide has more than tripled among teens and young adults; one recent Harvard study found the single "most important explanatory variable" behind this disturbing rise in youth suicide was the "increased share of youth living in homes with a divorced parent." This is why children should thank their mothers for getting and staying married.

 

Or take a mother's relationship with her sons and daughters. No one is surprised to learn that divorced and never-married fathers typically have poor relationships with their fathers. After all, most non-residential fathers do not even see their children once a week. But even mothers are much more likely to have poor relationships with their children when dad is not in the picture. One study found that young adults whose parents were divorced were nearly twice as likely to report that they had a poor relationship with their mother compared to young adults who were raised in an intact, married family (30 versus 16 percent). This is why mothers, who usually make great efforts to have good relationships with their children, should also make every effort to get and stay married. . . .

 

Why does marriage matter so much for children? Typically, two parents bring more social and economic resources to the parenting enterprise than does one parent. Two parents offer one another mutual support, encouragement, and relief when a child is difficult, disobedient, or depressed. For instance, a husband can step in and relieve a wife who has grown angry or exhausted with her children. This, by the way, is one reason married moms are more likely to have children who report good relationships with them; because of the financial, practical, and emotional support they receive from their husbands, married moms are more likely to be affectionate and authoritative - and less likely to be abusive - than are single mothers.

 

 Marriage also binds children to their fathers, who usually find it very difficult to maintain consistent and positive relationships with their children without the support and encouragement of their children's mother. Finally, children who are fortunate to have married parents who are considerate of and committed to one another enjoy a measure of emotional security - not to mention a model of adult love that gives them hope for their own marital future - that their peers in broken homes do not.

 

 


For full article go to National Review Online -

http://article.nationalreview.com/?q=ODIyNDE3OGZhZTk0Y2YyYjNkMGEyZWJkMWRiN2M5NjQ=  

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News & Info

 

NATIONAL DAY of THANKSGIVING

Saturday 21st May 2007

 

The National Day of Thanksgiving is a unique opportunity for Australians to celebrate and give thanks for our God given heritage as a nation and to demonstrate the God given values of honour, respect, thankfulness and gratitude towards our fellow man that have made us the great nation we are.
 
It is a day for us to pause as a nation and say thank you to God and to each other for those many things we often take for granted but which really make our lives worth living.  Let us use this day to be a blessing to those who have been a blessing to us during the past year.
 

Read the Prime Minister and Leader of the Oppositions statements on Thanksgiving..

 

http://www.thanksgiving.org.au/index.asp

 

 

 

 

Boy's Passage 'Man's Journey / Girl's Passage - Father's Duty

Rites of Passage Seminar with

Brian & Kathy Molitor from

USA - founders of Malachi Global

7-9 pm Wednesday 13th June 2007

$25 per single -  $35 per couple

Bookings are essential - 02 9399 5959

Graepoint Baptist Church

8-10 Soudan St

Randwick

  

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'Good to Great' Fatherhood Mentoring Course Sydney

10 week course commencing 5th September 2007

Phone or email Fatherhood Foundation for more information

Ph: 02 4272 6677 or email: info@fatherhood.org.au  

Course from Wed 5th Sept-28th Nov 07 (2 weeks break for school holidays)

 

 

Gordon Dalbeys Sons of the Father Conferences

 

NSW

Conference 1: Sons of the Father at Gilbulla (Live-in conference)

Date:            22-24 July 2007 (Limited places remaining)

Location:       Ellel Ministries centre Gilbulla 710 Moreton Park Road, Menangle, (near Campbelltown).

 

Conference 2: Sons of the Fatherat Petersham

Date:            30 June 1 July 2007 (Whole day Saturday & Sunday afternoon)

Location:       Petersham Assembly of God church

                   93 Audley St, Petersham, Sydney.

To Register:   Registrations for either event can be made by contacting                                                 Ellel Ministries       Phone: 02-46338102

Email: info@ellel.org.au

www.ellel.org.au  

 

Queensland

Event:          Sons of the Father at Somerset Dam (Live-in conference)

Date:            13-15 July 2007

Location:       Camp Somerset, Stanley Pocket Rd, via Esk, Queensland

To Register:   Phone: Men Transforming Men on 07-3876 8710

 mtm.aust@bigpond.net.com

www.mtmaustralia.org.au

 

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MEN, LOVE, SEX & MARRIAGE

A Fresh Look at Male Sexuality

Saturday 16th June 2007 - 9am til 4:30pm

 

A workshop for men with Noel Giblett

Resources and Reflections on Manhood and masculinities

 

Love: its joys and sorrows

Sexuality: its delights and dark sides

Marriage: fantasies and realities

 

Venue: Workspace Unlimited

Rear 139 Claremont Crescent, Swanbourne

cnr. Franklin Street (near Swanbourne train station)

Cost:  Early Bloke registration (received before 1st June) $80

          Last Minute Man registration (after 1st June) $100

Enquiries: Noel 0431 848 835 or noel@noelgiblett.com.au  

 

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SUNDAY PROGRAM Channel 9 at 9am 20th May (This Sunday)

 

This Sunday 20th May, Channel 9 at 9am The SUNDAY Program.. ( check local program guides) A must see.

 

The New Family Law Reform.....and some of the groups involved on both sides of the equation.

 

The Attorney General   Philip Ruddock

LoneFathers Assoc   Barry Williams

Dads in Distress   Tony Miller and members

Relationships Australia   Ann Hollands

Unifam/Lawyers etc

Custodial and non custodial parents

Mums and Mum Groups etc

 

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Letters

 

Dear Fatherhood Foundation

 

I am dedicated to helping dads get the most out of the time they spend with their children. I have spent the last six months developing a website full of positive things to do, tips and advice for single and separated dads, all from an extremely positive point of view. Please take a moment to look at the site at ww.dadcando.com  although I am based in the UK, the site has been built by a very close friend of mine who lives in Melbourne so I feel we have very strong connections with Australia. The site is completely free and provides a reasonably large number of projects, printables, templates and downloadables all designed and of the highest quality with a single dad and his kids in mind. I am a single dad and have done every single project with my three boys.

 

I hope you like the site and will seriously think of linking to it for the benefit of your visitors and single dads and their kids.

 

Thx

Chris

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Dad's Prayer

Dear God

 

Laughter is the best medicine

So help me laugh more.

But why do I get so serious sometimes

About everything . . .?

 

That's because you can't see

The wood for the trees.

I have given you children to teach you how to laugh

Listen to them and learn from them.

You must become a child again to learn how to enjoy life.

 

Note: Children laugh 300 to 400 times a day.

Adults average 12-17 times a day.

 

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